As a result of a road traffic accident, an amputation and then as an elite athlete I have suffered a lot with mental health, it’s ok not to be ok and I know now by helping myself to get myself back on target that I have the necessary skills to support others. Also, as a mental health first aider, I have the proven techniques to get the best from what may feel like a never-ending series of horrible emotions.
Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life. For example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam, having a medical test or most common a job interview.
During times like these, feeling anxious can be perfectly normal, but some people find it hard to control their worries. Their feelings of anxiety take over and that’s where I come in. Standing on the start line in Rio 2016, over one hundred major international events, multiple job interviews as an amputee always made me feel anxious. I have worked with children, adults and top athletes who have all suffered the same symptoms. Let me help you.
Confidence is something that can be taught, people with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves I know I’ve been there. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. They are no better or more deserving than you. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence. Yes, I have built a stream of successes, but you can too, set targets/goals to feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well.
Let me help you with Instead of focusing only on “to-do” lists, spend time reflecting on “did-it” lists. Reflecting on the major milestones, projects and goals you’ve achieved is a great way to reinforce confidence in your skills.
Back to Work – I’ve been there, after a serious accident, not having any high-level qualifications, ending up with a disability I was worried how I was going to create a living for myself. I decided that I was going to create a list of all the things I’m good at by creating a mind map something I am very familiar with and now help people to use. The main aim of this program is supporting people with disabilities and long-term health conditions into paid, sustained employment. As well as helping people get a job, we also provide in-work support to help them keep that job. We concentrate on getting people the right job, matching individual abilities and aspirations with the right employer in a supportive working environment.
This one starts with the individual, we at Bespoke mentoring can help start to build the motivation, start the wheel turning but to keep it moving the individual must learn to motivate themselves. We help with this by setting SMART objectives/goals which are: specific, measurable, acceptable, realistic, timely, extending of capabilities, and rewarding to those involved. We have all faced many times when we have lacked motivation but it’s understanding how to turn the light back on, relight that fire and get on with it. Bespoke work with individuals or groups to help give some motivation and point people in the right direction.
Overcoming barriers to success involves assessing the situation, consulting those close to you, considering alternatives and taking action. To manage your career or life effectively, you need to take charge of your development. By assessing your skills, getting advice from others, learning new skills and making informed decisions, you can achieve your goals. Overcoming challenges and setbacks usually requires a positive attitude, as well as dedication and commitment and that’s where we come in by helping you with decision making, setting targets & increasing your daily creativity.